Let’s pretend we are the patient and we have access to a therapist who is nurturing and supportive.
The therapist begins today’s session by asking the question, “When does one equal zero?”
We don’t have to care about the answer because we believe the therapist is probably guiding us so we can think about something familiar in a new way—this, we assume, is sort of what therapy is all about.
“No idea,” could be our sincere reply.
The therapist might continue, “We know nowhere in Nature does one equal zero.”
“Okay,” we murmur.
“But, emotionally speaking,” the therapist proceeds, “we often act as if ‘nothing’ is the same as ‘something’. If we believe a problem is big, taking small steps to resolve it may be considered futile; we may very likely conclude that our strategy shall be—‘do nothing’—even as we continue to worry about the big problem or large goal.”
We mutter expectantly, “Okay”.
The therapist reminds us: “last time we met you told me you wanted to buy a house. Houses are really expensive (even today). It will take long time to save for this goal. I understand you went out and purchased a home entertainment system with deferred payments and zero interest for six months, is this correct?”
“It is,” comes our admission.
“Does this demonstrate that people are lazy or silly?” asks the therapist, rhetorically, of course.
“Probably”, follows our wimpy reply.
“No. It may suggest, however, that our decision-making process leading to self-discovery (our plan to save to meet the goal) is not linear.”
“Engineers draw straight lines—the mind does not. The mind imagines and associates cursively, and by so doing, it creates a dynamic sense of self (who we are). The mind behaves more like a dream—full of content not always accessible to the waking self.”
The therapist pauses, and then closes with: “We might wonder, are we more like Legos or finger painting?”
We are left to ponder something important.
Meanwhile, the therapist changes from soothing nurturer to squawking maven—“don’t forget to leave your check for the session as you leave—oh, and next month my rates will be increasing…” The session must be over. Were we ever on the therapist’s mind?
After we leave the session we are going to buy some comfort food, return to the apartment, and download a movie on the new entertainment center.
We will never save up for the house. Now we know why.
If the patient in this post were Charles Bukowski—there would be no entertainment center. Instead there would be pinched and smoked cigarette butts and empty scotch and wine bottles. Buk (as in puke) might leave the session fuming some choice words in the direction of the therapist as he heads to the nearest package store to buy inexpensive Napa wine en route to the track to bet on the last two races of the day; so he can wake up to an alarm clock the next morning and, for another day, return to a dingy post office somewhere in Los Angeles to sort mail.
But before losing consciousness he won’t forget to write one more poem.
Buk lived as if he knew that one is never equal to zero. This is why, even as a chain-smoking, horse betting, compulsive alcohol imbibing, raving mail sorter, he created a remarkable and lasting body of work. His mind touched the sun---even as its light sent stabs of pain through his nicotine and alcohol fired brain.
It can be done.
Nowhere in Nature does one equal zero, especially, not in our dreams. Living our dreams, therefore, must have everything to do with letting one equal one.
A Bukowski-style meditation to change the world: consider rinsing an empty can, an empty can of beer, dog food or beans, it does not matter, and place it on a windowsill. Scribble “1 = 1” on the can with a marker.
Start adding to the can. Each coin becomes its own meditation. Do not worry what to do with the coins. This question will answer itself and it will feel like a gift—because a universe that reliably demonstrates that 1 = 1 is no hell, but a remarkable prize. Each of us, no exceptions, may thereby add to its legacy.
The op-ed material for the Avarice Fellowship blog is provided by the Share-Capital Foundation, www.share-capital.com.
We bid you peace.
